At the beginning of a new year so many of us focus on changing things in our lives that society or convention tells us we should be doing a certain way. We think that life would be so much better if we just follow a road map that tells us how much we should weigh, what food is best to eat, what kind of clothes are fashionable, and which habits are favorable and unfavorable. So, we resolve to change ourselves to fit into a mold and we never stop to consult our own inner wisdom. The one authority that truly knows what is best for each one of us as we strive to live authentically and in harmony with all of Life.
For the last several months I have felt myself being propelled by my willingness to experience life in authenticity and with a new understanding of fulfillment. I felt like I kept stalling out. Taking a few steps only to end up standing still and often feeling frustrated because I know something is waiting for me but I can’t seem to get there. So, I decided to take my own advice and recognize that all those blessings I want; all the Good that I am seeking is already here in this moment waiting for me to receive it. Limitless possibility and endless opportunity are present in my life.
Here is my advice:
1. Get rid of things that no longer serve you.
Not just things. Yes, clear out the clutter. Stop holding onto things for ‘someday’. And for heaven’s sake, stop waiting to use things only on special occasions!
But, this little plan means much bigger things when we are willing to recognize ALL of the places where life just isn’t working right. Why isn’t it working? Often times, if we recognize where we are holding onto old beliefs and habits that just don’t fit the person we are right now we can let them go to focus on becoming the person we are meant to be.
Yes, this is often a painful process. Maybe we don’t want to donate our old prom dresses and bridesmaid gowns. It’s difficult to admit to ourselves and others that relationships are not working and in need of new healthier boundaries. But wounds heal and scars fade and the only way that those things happen is because we are willing to move on from the pain. Let it go. You are serving no one by clinging on to things that keep you small.
2. Get out of your own way.
All of those clichés about being our own toughest critic or harshest judge and worst patient are pretty much true. Other people are usually too involved in their own stuff to care about our stuff as much as we think they do. And if they are overly involved in our business- it’s just a way of distracting themselves from their own. Believe that!
But I digress-the point is that we are judging ourselves most harshly and our experience of life is a direct reflection of all those things we think we do and do not deserve. So, stop it. The only place that gets us is stuck exactly where we are. By telling ourselves that we are unhappy, unlovable, unworthy or undeserving of life’s blessings in any way we are perpetuating and putting energy into beliefs that are just untrue.
The truth is that every one of us is blessed and the best way to fully experience our blessings to be willing to recognize them. Every moment that we spend focusing on what we don’t have or worrying about the outcome is a moment we are not realizing the things that we do have. Sometimes it’s coffee with a friend or an unseasonably warm day in December walking in the park. It’s the love and laughter and abundance and riches that we are in the thick of and when we stop blocking all of those marvelous things with our regrets and insecurities, more and more experiences like that show up in our existence.
So, that’s it. I’m following my advice. My mantra continues to be Limitless Possibility, Endless Opportunity and I’m enjoying all the little things that are showing up in places I didn’t think to look. I hope you’ll take some time to let your gifts find you too.